Parenting isn’t easy. We’re constantly trying to shape and mold our children into wonderful little human beings. We give them a moral compass, we teach them manners and help them learn how to be safe. Wouldn’t it be nice to remove something off our long list of responsibilities? The thing is, there are 9 things that we should never try to change in our child. Even if you were to try, you wouldn’t be successful and would likely feel drained and frustrated.
Why? These nine things are the essence of who your child is and the part of them that will be constant now and forever. This is their temperament. These temperamental traits are so important to know because asking our child to behave in a way that is unnatural for them can be exhausting for not only them but for us too. The key is to figure out how to work with these traits versus against them and I promise… if you do so, you will feel an invisible parenting weight lifted off your shoulder.
Ready to give it a go? Here are the 9 things you should never try to change in your child:
- How active they are.
- How intense they are.
- How persistent they are.
- How adaptable they are.
- How they react to new people/situations.
- How easily distracted they get.
- How they react to different kinds of environmental stimulation.
- What their quality of mood is.
- How regular they are. (Think about their eating & pooping habits. Are they all over the place or do they typically eat and poop at consistent times?)
While we can’t change these things about our children, we can provide them with strategies and tools to help them navigate life! For more detailed information on each of these temperamental traits, how to determine your child’s temperament and tools for you and your child, be sure to read through the posts below.
- Temperament 101
- The Nine Temperamental Traits: Part 1
- The Nine Temperamental Traits: Part 2
- Identify Your Child’s Temperament…and Yours!
- Free Printable Temperament Chart
- Minimizing Tantrums Based on Their Temperament
- Easy Transition Ideas
- Potty Training Tips Based on Temperament
- Gift Ideas Based on Temperament